In my appointment yesterday T and I were discussing my biological father who abandoned us when I was a young teen. This has caused me to always believe I am not good enough and have abandonment issues. Yesterday I again questioned why I was not good enough and since he is deceased never having the chance to be.

T replied that if anything my dad wasn't good enough. I am an amazing and beautiful person. That he was the one with all the problems and he was the person that missed out by choosing to not have me in my life. Also, that there is nothing a child can do to cause a parent to alienate them All children deserve the love of parents. The fact he couldn't recognize that I deserved him in my life just proves he had issues that we will never know about.

Part of me feels some comfort in that but at the same time part of me wants to push her away. What if she really figures out the real me and also leaves.

So has anybody ever experienced something like this and how did it play out?