@divine1966, I spelled out each of those issues to him last night when we talked. I told him EVERYTHING that's been on my mind. So yes, in therapy, all would have to be addressed, and not just the anger issues.

It's a mountain, really.

@TishaBuv, the car lease issue does not bother me as much as it bothers you, though I do appreciate your sentiments and concerns about this. What does bother me is trying to get out of it IF I do have to divorce him. I told him last night point blank that he is a spoiled brat. And I spelled it out for him, telling him how much he demands and how much of a disservice his parents did him by overindulging him. To me, that's the real issue at play: his spoiled and demanding mentality that he must have the best of everything and demands it. He needs a reality check, and I gave him one last night for sure.