Thanks Tisha and Dechandawa. Hugs.

I’ll tell you... I am EXHAUSTED mentally and emotionally from all of this. So much stress trying to deal with lawyers, secrecy and pretending.

So glad it’s all out on the table.

And yes, the ideal scenario was that I tell him in private. The only reason to bring my parents in was to avoid another explosion.

Yes Dechan, I married later in life and it did happen rather quickly. But that doesn’t mean people can’t relate to being abused in their marriage or partnership. Many couples marry quickly in fact. I respect your desire to not discuss my finances. I, too, think of this as more of a private and personal matter. But I shared my concerns regardless because I needed the support and help.

My head is swimming right now. I need rest. I need a break from stress and angst.

If I truly did get through to him, he will make necessary changes. It won’t be easy for him.

The pot is not a big deal or problem for me. It’s legal where we live. I really am not bothered by it at all. Now if it effected his job or his behavior then I’d have a problem. But it does not.

I do think this happened in the best way possible. I don’t have high hopes right now, but I believe maybe there’s still a chance. Maybe.

Hugs to you both.