Hi Motts, how are you doing?

The marriage counseling was interesting. I think my husband is figuring out that the doctor is going to hold him accountable for his actions too. I also think the doctor isn't saying so, but I doubt he gives us much of a chance... although that could just be because I feel that way. I told the doctor about how my husband throws me under the bus and gave him specific examples. I was surprised that the doctor didn't tell stbx that these are abusive behaviors and should not be done by a husband to his wife. Instead the doctor said that my husband must act remorseful for these behaviors so that I will be able to let go of the anger they inspire. WTF?!

The doctor told me that I have to make my statements sound like I am expressing my feelings and not sound defensive. So, if your husband did painful and harmful things to you, would you sound angry and defensive?

This doctor reminds me of Mr. Rodgers. His tone was very modulated. I also thought his approach was way too simplified for what is going on between my husband and me. My husband wasn't sure this was going to work either. Our homework for the next 3 weeks is to say good morning to each other in the morning and good night in the evening. This is supposed to build our friendship.

What have you been up to?