Oh, Out There, I had to chuckle, “13” is an age where I got developmentally stuck. When things come up from different ages that I can identify T and I “name them” by age. 13 is the most likely to take issue with T or have transference. Anything can set off 13, teen years are so volatile anyway. 13 is mad at T for suggesting/pushing to moving to every other week due to finances. 13 is angry as all get out at T because adult me suggested working with another T the alternating weeks which would also help bring up my troubles with women. When my 13 gets set off it is when I struggle the most to not act out emotions.
So... I try to look at how things right now might be replicating what I was going through at 13. I try to look at the feelings 13 is having and what they were connected to then point out the differences between then and now. I try to add things to my self care that I would have liked at 13. Thankfully my T is also very good with 13 and understands what’s going on.