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Old Jul 09, 2020, 06:51 PM
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Oh, Out There, I had to chuckle, “13” is an age where I got developmentally stuck. When things come up from different ages that I can identify T and I “name them” by age. 13 is the most likely to take issue with T or have transference. Anything can set off 13, teen years are so volatile anyway. 13 is mad at T for suggesting/pushing to moving to every other week due to finances. 13 is angry as all get out at T because adult me suggested working with another T the alternating weeks which would also help bring up my troubles with women. When my 13 gets set off it is when I struggle the most to not act out emotions.
So... I try to look at how things right now might be replicating what I was going through at 13. I try to look at the feelings 13 is having and what they were connected to then point out the differences between then and now. I try to add things to my self care that I would have liked at 13. Thankfully my T is also very good with 13 and understands what’s going on.

That's made me chuckle too ! I told him a younger part is quite content with him , but I think 13 is definitely there at the moment. Those parts of ourselves are so complex what they feel and want/ need aren't they. I always am very interested in your work with your T and mention it to my T sometimes. We haven't gone back to in person sessions yet in the UK , so I was interested to read your thoughts and feelings about returning.
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Thanks for this!
Omers