It's not uncommon for someone who grew up in some kind of dysfunction/emotional neglect to end up in relationships with others who are also dysfunctional. Unfortunately, the dysfunctional is normalized and people can miss important red flags, can be impulsive wanting love/marriage/commitment and end up miserable and dealing with many dysfunctional challenges.

It sounds like you are attracted to women like your mother and you will never get the kind of love an caring from a person that is simply not capable like your mother. Sadly, people can be notoriously drawn to what they know, it seems safe because it's familiar. Then a person ends up suffering over and over due to pairing up with the wrong type of individual.