I understand not wanting to have to fix ourselves but unfortunately that is all there is at this point. The point of therapy is not to have the T fix you but to teach you the skills to "fix" yourself. My T always says I am not broken but I was dealt an extremely bad hand in the parenting department. Luckily or unluckily, I have DID so I am not in it alone. I have 9 others that are part of me with 4 kids that I know of so far. T always tells me it is my job to help them (and others sometimes). This really sucks. He knows I have no idea how so he is constantly telling me what to say and do to help those little ones. I hate when he tells me this and asks if I did this or that or I should tell them this or that. I don't want to be the one that is stuck with this problem. He knows it and always validates me by saying "no, it is not fair." It takes me a long time to get onboard with a lot of the stuff he suggests I do. Eventually I will give in and baby step into most of it. I hate to admit when he is right but sometimes he is. It sucks and it is a lot of hard and painful work. Remember it is your choice to do it or not. Unfortunately, there is no easy "fix" and your T can only guide you and walk with you on the path if that is what you choose. Good luck to you. HUGS.
"