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Originally Posted by Nonamelady
Hey all, I have a situation...my boyfriend of 2 years likes the sissy genre of pornography. He made a reddit account a few months ago and called himself a sissy on there. Though he never interacted with anyone on there, he did post pics (of other sissy’s) with dirty captions. None of him. Other men sent him messages, but he never replied or even opened them from what I could tell. He was following some other cross dressers on there. He left it open on his phone and I was pretty shocked by it. Partly due to calling himself a sissy, then having an account that could potentially connect him with real people. I have a few issues here.
-this is borderline cheating with people online
-this is kinda gay? Not sure. Thoughts?
-he says he is ashamed of it and actually gets grossed out just before finishing.
-he says he doesn’t want it in real life because he likes being a man.
-he identifies as straight and has no desire for other men
-he says he was never a ladies man, and that this type of porn could connect him more intimately with them. So much so he basically becomes one.
-I am just feeling off about it. I love him and want to understand it. Please help me understand this better, so I can be more open and accepting to it.
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hi nonamelady, i seem to be doing the same kind of thing here on this site. some men have feelings that they need to explore. as for me, i seem to actually be leaning toward transitioning all together, but for some i think its just experimentation. all my life i wanted to be a heterosexual male but i ended up being a self harmer instead and that was just the tip of the iceburg.
i can tell you much of my own experience if you would like. just let me know. but from what you’ve said, it seems like what he is doing may subside.
it sounds so nice that he has someone who cares and is receptive in order to understand better and improve things. i did not have that opportunity in my life. talking about it may be difficult but i think i can be done - maybe with a couples therapist. i hope things work out for you two.