Thanks for your post. I am not a medical professional and do not have expertise on the subject matter. First of all, I am glad you have a therapist and are dealing with this professionally. I also wanted to say that you are not alone. I can relate to your issue as we sometimes repeat the patterns of abuse or neglect with our romantic partners. I am not going in details over what my sister did to me, but my romantic partners were all abusive who abused, humiliated and bullied me in the same way as my sister and neglected my emotional needs. They made sure I was submissive, feeling inferior and scared of standing up to them. Given my lack of expertise, I can’t explain it but some how we repeat the patterns of abuse and/or neglect. I am glad that you have a therapist who can help you but please know that you are not alone.