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Old Jul 10, 2020, 10:12 PM
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His turn around seems to be unusually drastic. He went from demanding and blaming to being a model husband in a day. I’d be a bit suspicious. There are few things i
need to adjust in my behaviors and it takes me forever to change it and it’s not even anything drastic. How is he changing like this so quick

I also find it interesting that he went from blaming you for everything to blaming his father for his behaviors. Of course we are effected by our childhood but at 47 he should be his own person regardless how his dad behaves. Also he blames his explosiveness on his dad but what about lack of responsibility and wanting to be financially dependent on his wives? Is that his dad fault too?

And I know you said his pot habits are non issue but if he needs to be high in order to not explode, it is an issue when pot isn’t available. He nearly ruined expensive honeymoon and wedding because he had no pot for some time (couldn’t take it on a plane?), does it mean you two can never fly to places or have to always arrange immediate access to pot? Is he going to address looking at other ways to keep himself in check besides substances that aren’t always available? Meditation? Individual therapy? Exercise?

Not saying he is not sincere or just glossing over the issues, but just be cautiously optimistic. I hope you get therapy soon and it will help with all concerns.
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Thanks for this!
lizardlady