Hi lovethesun,

I remember your other post about the limo, but don’t remember if I commented then.

The way I see it, you already bought the sign, it is her 16th birthday now in a pandemic, many people are putting out signs for birthdays and graduations now, you already asked your daughter about it and she said she is fine with it... so I would not make a big deal about the sign and put it out the day of her birthday and then remove it. To discuss the sign more only feeds the whole issue more of this attention issue. If she volunteers that she hates that sign or she removes it, then of course, agree to get rid of the sign.

I don’t see you as a mother who is trying to go way overboard as though living vicariously through her daughter. It sounds like you wanted to give her a great birthday experience because you love her and maybe also because you personally did or did not have that from your parents.

It’s a bummer that her Sweet 16 celebration that she wanted at the restaurant with her friends has been canceled due to a pandemic. I hope you both come up with some plan that is socially distanced and appeals to her.