Wife has cancer - it is in remission thank God. We are in our 40's.
All of her hormone producing organs have been removed - resulting in immediate menopause.
So now, her libido is really low, and we struggle to have sex that is not painful. (having your wife cringe during sex is pretty demoralizing)
We have tried vaginal moisturizers and Lord knows we have a shelf full of lubes.
It's still not coming together.
She has a clean bill of health and she is frustrated as well.
Thoughts from post cancer or menopausal folks here?