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Originally Posted by divine1966
I personally don’t think he is insecure. He might be but not every insecure person is an abuser, I feel like his insecurity isn’t the cause of these outrageous situations .
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He's definitely insecure, even without the additional scenarios. He's also competitive with me and has said he thinks people think I'm better than he. It's all in his head .. or he's concerned about how his past behaviours before my time look onnhim beside me.
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I think he is controlling of you and the kids. It could be camouflaged by “I am crying you aren’t home because I love you so much” when in reality he needs you home to care for the children and he is not fond of you having your own life, all signs of control.
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Two days ago, he was crying before I left the house.. privately in his own room, texting he was feeling emotional. When I take my breaks, he feels rejected. I had mentioned to him that texting me 8 times within my 1.5hr break was excessive and that I needed that time foe me.. that I was having breathing difficulties. He says he wants to be supportive but the feeling of rejection takes a hold of him.
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You really don’t know if he can’t take care of responsibilities because all he thinks is you. When he is about with friends he is ok not thinking of you, he is capable of functioning. Him not taking care of the children is unlikely caused by being preoccupied whth you. He sure says a lot of things. I’d not buy half of it.
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He didn't say these things. It's my interpretation. For example, he'll text me to come home earlier.. asks me to come inside sooner if I'm in the yard.. texts me how long I'll be.. because he's struggling with our daughter. She's behaving like a typical child for her age, but he can't handle it because I'm out doing something without him. It's the only thing that makes sense to me.