I know the obvious answer is to leave. Not only would it put me in a financial crises, leaving my home will also affect my employment. There's a lot at stake for me, personally.

He's filed for personal bankruptcy so he can't afford to live on his own, plus maintain payments toward his debts. So if I leave, I don't doubt he'll fight for at least 60% custody so he can claim child support, child tax, and the GST refunds. OF COURSE this scares me! Im very closely bonded to my girls. I've been their primary caregiver. I can't imagine how this would affect them! Dad will brainwash them into thinking he's "protecting" them... because I leaned into him to guide him out the room.

This incident greatly affects my possibility of convincing the court. I think this is why he took this angle. He was upset about me "rejecting" him and so blew this scenario out of proportion. He is supported by his family but they don't know my side on most things.

I really feel trapped and scared. He really taught me that when he's in this state, there's no boundaries or limits as to where he'd take things.

I'm walking on eggshells and will be subjected to giving him the attention and affection to keep the peace. Who cares about how all this has impacted me. He doesn't think about how this can and has impacted our girls. He's just thinking about his own needs.