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In the state where I live, California, what you did would be considered domestic violence. Children witnessing domestic violence can be removed from the home by CPS.
I was arrested once because of a domestic dispute. I was separated from my husband at the time and living with a guy. We had an argument, I flung out my arm as if to say "Whatever!" When I flung my arm out my nails (which were long at the time) just brushed his shoulder (which was bare). My nails left 2 tiny scratches across his shoulder. Mind, I had no intention of touching him, at all. That my fingers brushed against him was purely accidental.
But the guy started yelling that he was going to call the cops, which he did. They came out quickly, one of them looked at the minuscule scratches on his shoulder. He turned to me where I was sitting in a chair, told me to stand up, and suddenly there were handcuffs on my wrists. It was surreal. Absolutely crazy. It felt like a bad joke.
I ended up spending 24 hours of pure hell in jail. Fortunately, my family came up with $600 to bail me out. Charges were dropped, but I sure learned a lot.
Arguments escalate fast. Things can happen that no one intends. Maybe someone pushes someone, that person loses balance, falls and anything can happen at that point. People have hit their head and died in such a bizarre way.
The cops who come out, even for a minor situation, can be jerks and instead of trying to talk everybody down, instead of giving you referrals to places where you can get help, they decide that somebody (or both of you) will be arrested.
My advice is stop the physical arguments now. Don't "lean against" him. Do not get anywhere within arms' or legs' reach of him. I'm very serious. Because before you know it someone will be injured and there's major trouble then. And expense.
That children witness anything like what you've described is 100% unacceptable. Bear in mind that if there are minors in the home and the cops are called for a domestic altercation the cops are mandated to report to CPS. Once CPS is involved, you have big problems.
Are you in therapy?
Do whatever you need to do before things get worse. If you don't do anything to intervene I can promise you it will get worse. That's a guarantee.
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