Not at all. He's 6ft tall. He claimed he was "protecting" our daughter who was tantruming over a bedtime routine, prior to everything. She was being 3. I was trying to manage her behaviour when he came into the room. It wasn't that I was managing her incorrectly.. it was that he was feeling rejected and didn't care about what I was trying to do to settle her.. nothing out of the ordinary when it comes to her bedtime silliness. It was a simple case of triangulation when he walked in, though, which I was trying to avoid.. hence, me closing the door on him. I get it, I reacted and it shouldn't have happened. It's out of character for me to behave like that.

Had he really thought our daughter was being harmed, he would have stormed in, as any parent would have. At first he told me he came in (calmly) to "help out", knowing she wasn't ready for bed when he dropped her off. He later changed the story to say he came in because I was "hurting" her. It was all bs.. he was feeling rejected.

We usually debrief what's happened, afterwards. I haven't been able to have a conversation with him about it, yet. I'm still dealing with the effects and am more focused on maintaining the normalcy. And again, conversations he's brought up since, has been about rejection.. not "abuse" towards the family.

I'm feeling really down and haven't slept much all week. I told him if he really loved me and wants to have longevity with me and raise our kids together, then there are just things you don't do to someone. There's no limit to what he'll do against me, it feels like now. He's threatened to break up with me 4 times in 2 years.. all because I've addressed a boundary.. total emotional blackmail. He DOES NOT want me to go.

Most of this stuff has happened behind the scenes. Our daughters are pretty happy and well behaved girls. I'm sure they pick up on the energy, though. Dad's really gotta put his cell away, too, when he's in a mood because he shuts everything else out. That's an area I want to address, as well.