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Jul 12, 2020 at 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Bob1960

She went on a 230 mile trip to a large city and came back without any problems. She did real good driving.

Did you actually ride along with her on this trip? Or is she just reporting to you that she "did real good driving"??

By the time I got my dad diagnosed with dementia, I had spent an hour in his garage mentally apologizing to the drivers of the red, blue, and black cars that he had scraped with his white one. So I rode along with him and got a terrifying first hand experience of what he thought was driving as well as he had his whole life. It was extremely painful to take his keys, but not as difficult as dealing with him causing an accident with injuries.

By definition, folks with dementia can't assess their own capabilities. Also, the symptoms especially at first can be episodic with fatigue or other factors. And almost no one Wants to stop driving. You can't take her keys, but you can question her assumptions about her safety for herself and others.