His accusations and threats were totally unacceptable. I would be seething with rage if my husband did that to me. I’d also be divorcing him immediately.

Did you say you are able to go back to work full time again? Can you do that, afford childcare on your own, and kick him out??

You said you feel trapped. You’ve been in this for 6 years and this is how he’s behaving, still and years later. You may see some progress but he’s still behaving very abusively.

If you have the guts and the desire to leave him, I would find a way out. I don’t see this getting better. I see it getting worse. .