The problem I'm dealing with isn't that it's taking over my life. Covid19 nade me realize how controlling of my time he is.. at the very least, it takes him time to finally accept me spending time without him. He does allow me but it's an effort on my part to get him there.

Like I said, if I'm accounted for, he's all good. It was fine when I worked 60hrs per week. It was fine when he knew exactly what I was doing and with whom, once he got to know my friends a bit. It's when there's an unknown for him, he feels threatened.

So, there was a lot of unknowns for him during covid19 because he dropped a bomb on me. I was having chest pains and breathing difficulties and needed daily walks alone.. coffee breaks, dog walking. When this change first took place (the world had shut down) he was crying! He said he couldn't handle it and NEEDED to know if I had given up on my family and met someone else. I told him he needed to work through that with his therapist. Eventually he was ok with it. But after every episode when he wanted to love bomb and I'm pulling back, he felt rejected. Rejection is not handled well.

So yes, we've had our struggles but it wasn't until covid19 that I understood the bigger picture. It's why I started coming here.