I know, without a doubt, that my T genuinely cares about me a lot. I don’t think he is faking, insincere or making it up. He shows it in many ways but the one time that made me 100% sure it was real was when I was late for an appointment. It wasn’t my usual time slot and I wrote down 2pm rather than 1pm. Thankfully I had left early and was already in the area near his office... anyway I am always at least 5 min early. At 1:10 I look at my phone to check the time (I always have my phone on silent... ) I had a text, an email and two missed calls from him! I called him pack and he answered on the first ring. He was clearly worried something had happened.

I also worked with one T for about 4 years. As a T she and I were not a good match but we went to the same church... so she referred me to another T and we became friends. Not super close, but friends. She ended up kinda being a second mom to me (I am about 10 years younger than her daughters). I got to know her husband pretty well and met one of her daughters a few times. Only her H knew I had been a client. We never talked about work outside her office though. The only exception was after she retired she was shredding client files and asked if I wanted mine. I accepted and after reading it we did take a walk down memory lane over tea (It had been 10 or 15 years since she had been my T).