I have had concerns about boundaries, in general. I have concerns about his emotional instability. There's been incidences where he did not handle the girls well to the point all 3 were crying by the time I arrived home. We don't hit or spank our children. But knowing they were all crying because dad couldn't manage a behaviour.. was concerning for me. The baby wasn't even one yet. She looked scared when I got home.

Dad has a tendency of playing favourites, as well. I've been on top of that. He's improved but occasionally I still have to remind him not to exclude the younger one.

Dad also demands to me that the 3yr old sleep in his room.. and only when he's mad at me. I don't care if he's feeling rejected. Our daughter is not my replacement for emotional support. I've addressed with him about Emotional Parentification, as well. Again, it's improved.

I've also addressed about his manhandling her. Picking her up against her will, as her body is wailing and she screaming. Often times it's because she's trying to run away in public, being silly. This happened yesterday, too. Everytime he does this, I tell him to let go. I talk with her and she instantly calms down. I set a boundary. I get he's thinking safety but, as I told him yesterday, he's already losing that "control" when he does that. What is he going to do when she's bigger? He needs to adopt a better strategy now that will get her to listen.

I feel like I'm having to address a lot. I know he's trying. I run into snags sometimes, too. All parents do. But I find it's me who puts things in motion. He's a backseat driver. If he has the girls 60%, I'm not going to know what's happening. He gets frustrated and emotional. The boundary issue is a big one for me.

And, I have a really strong bond with both my daughters. They ask for me a lot after I've been away from home for a couple HOURS. They're so little, they still need me. I've been the stay-at-home parent so it'll be quite disruptive and upsetting for the girls and I if I only get to see them 40% of the time. I can't stomach that. My babies need me.

If dad proves that I'm an unfit mom, due to his compulsive lying ways, in order to cash in, that will mentally break me. I'm not saying he WILL. I'm definitely WORRIED that he will.