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What I meant was you can consult with lawyers regarding a separation. You can educate yourself on the legalities while coping and figuring it out.
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I wouldn't call coming up with a list of 20 things you do wrong in terms of parenting being supportive of you or a good parenting partner with you.
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Well that's the thing. He's always said I've been the rock in this family. The list of 10 "issues" he had last month was a singular accusation. It was unfounded. I had set a boundary about our daughter and he retaliated about me being the "problem". The parenting specialist said otherwise.
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I also would not say that him accusing you of abuse, threatening to call child services and the police being supportive of you or coparenting with you well. Children hearing these things is damaging. It is very confusing and scary to a child.
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I fully agree. In the 3.5 years our daughter has been around, the threat to police and social services was a first, 6 days ago. Again, he was off the mark.
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He sounds erratic and volatile. If someone accused me of any of those things AND told his family I was abusive, I would be looking for ways to get a restraining order, take away his parenting rights and kick him out the door.
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It's not that simple. It's a "he said/she said" scenario. I don't want to lose my children while the legal authorities figure this out. I feel like I have to tread very carefully. If I had the means, I would have ended it, 6 days ago. I don't have the means right now.