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Originally Posted by divine1966
If you believe he has brain damage, he must see a doctor ASAP. If you have access to a medical care, making an appointment should be a paramount. They’ll see patients with precautions (wear mask and follow other guidelines). If I thought my husband has brain damage, he’d have to see a doctor right away.
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He has Multiple Sclerosis. He sees his specialist, yearly, and undergoes MRIs, yearly.
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If you think he has BPD as well, it’s harder to diagnose but he first must see a doctor and ask for a referral to see a psychiatrist. No employer provided therapist will not diagnose. Proper diagnosis needs to be determined by a medical doctor
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Yes, this is hard to do. Convincing him will be even harder. The best treatment for BPD is DBT therapy. He's already doing that and it's going to take time. If I didn't see progress, I'd be singing a different tune.
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Your child is only 3. I’d not determine severity of one incident compare to another incident by what she says about it. She is too young to analyze what’s going on between her parents and which incident is more unacceptable.
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How she felt about the scenarios is important. The whole thing should have been avoided. I said so from the start. She expressed to me how she felt about it. The second half of the incident was traumatic for the both of us.
As much as the first half was wrong, it really only lasted less than a minute, overall. So yes, it was wrong. I can understand why she was more impacted by the second half. Dad was screaming and threatening. We've both never seen him behave that way before. It's a lesson well learned.
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What exact boundaries is he violating? Yours or his kids? You talk about boundaries but never provided an example of him violating boundaries. Could you give an example of him violating their(or your) boundaries?
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He has boundary issues with everyone.. sometimes it's as little as texting me non-stop during my break, after telling him not to. I find emotional parentifying to cross boundaries.. etc. The specifics aren't necessary. I've addressed them to him, my daughter, his parents, and my therapists. Progress has been made. Right now, what's rocking the boat is this "rejection" piece.