PinkandBlue--this was exactly what I needed to hear this morning. I have told my kids that I am taking the next year to get myself healed. They all told me that it was about time that I think and myself and take care of myself as much as I do everyone else. Funny, but it is easier for me to have compassion and love for other than for me.

Keeping occupied and moving forward is pretty easy in the physical sense--walking, writing, knitting, projects around the house, my garden. Where I am really struggling is figuring our a way to keep the thought of my husband and this other woman out of my head. I have tried singing songs and playing music when random thoughts happen and I am also trying a breathing technique to let the thoughts go.

Any ideas? Thank you for sharing--I was wondering if this forum was a good place for me and you made me feel like I do have some kindred spirits here.