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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I do have a tip for you. After I have gone through many years of my marital dysfunction, I know there’s a pattern, and it is basically the model of the cycle of abuse (see attached image).
It took me a long time to recognize there was a pattern, which I saw on my own, then eventually proved it to my husband, now have explained it to our new therapist. He had us write it all down. This is very helpful. We will both be held accountable and figure out really what is happening and solve it once and for all, please for the love of God!  |
If an abuser agrees it is all them at fault and they are in the wrong etc is it reconciliation/apologetic stage or calm stage?
I also think that people become addicted to the cycle of abuse. Fights followed by romantic encounters with love gestures and intimacy and being treated with special things like gifts and flowers likely feels good for both. No wonder people like make up sex. Sadly the “high” can’t last forever