The time share is split with the kids...he drives 60 miles every other Monday, and every Tuesday and Wednesday morning to get them back here to go to school.They are here every morning to get on the bus and every afternoon till 4:30 on his exs. day.. Wed, and Thursday are here and every other weekend. A little crazy but it works. The school works like this...3 elementary schools feed into the middle and high school. They all want to go to school with there friends.We chose to live in the district when my husbands ex moved out of it...she had issues with the in-laws also. (she left them with a house they co-signed for and built a new house after 7 years.)
Our daughter goes to a different elementary school...because we tried the one that she should go too and it was a awful experience. My niece and nephew also go to that school too.
Believe me...if it wasn't for the kids...we would have already moved to the beach (our dream)
I don't speak to any of them...or try not too. My husband maybe talks to his mom once a week or every other week. They call here. My poor husband has stood up to them for years. They just do not respect him or that they are HIS children. His mother sits and argues with him and most arguments...end up bringing up the past.
And someone hit the nail on the head...
I am the one that has always had to help put him back together. I am the one that had to help re-build him. I love him dearly and want what is best for us as a family. I think he still wants for them to approve of him. Because he hasn't always done the right thing. I don't think that it is something he would ever get...unless we won the lottery. We choose to be broke...I stay at home so that the kids always have a parent there...teenage years isn't the time you leave them. We have one income...but we do have a happy home.And our children get to see a healthy marriage. (my husband and I both know what we where doing with no one around...we where there!! Not happening with out kids!!)
He has told them...if it has anything to do with my sister...leave me out of it. They don't. They want us all to get along.That our issues are causing issues with the rest of the family. Why? because we don't go to family functions where we do not feel comfortable? Cause we don't like those people??? And I am not saying I'm sorry for something I didn't break anymore. I did that for years...trying to figure out what it was that I needed to change or do different to make the relasonship work.
I posted a blog (mind you only his Aunt has Myspace) February 2006 after my daughter's 8th B-day party. I had had it. My sister in law came with her kids. My daughter's little b/f of 2 years was there. My niece was running after him..he's screaming at her to stop, and she continues and is trying to kiss him. I asked her to stop...she continues. My daughter gets very upset. I asked her mother to speak to her. She doesn't. I tell her child that that's enough and to quit running after him in my house...10 mins. later...My sister-in-law says to me.." I am going to take my child home so that my daughter can behave at her party" I responded...I think thats' a great idea. That was it for me. Always blaming my child. It never has a thing to do with hers. She then goes running to her mother...and I am wrong...again. So forget it...I'm done. Back to the blog...I never called out any names or a certain situation. I didn't tell anyone that I posted it until a few days later...I told my husband. He wasn't happy about it but told me that I had to do what I had to do. His Aunt forwarded the blog to my sister in law...she forwarded it to everyone she knew...the next day...it had 171 views. I had a whole 50 people on my friends list then. It started the war...
I have no regrets...that day I let all this go.I thought. But it seems that it will be nice and quiet for a few months...then a phone call starts something... and not us calling them. My husband has said to them...and he is fine with a Hey, Bye, Love you relationship with them. That it had to be that way. That he doesn't trust them. That he thinks that it will never change.We don't go to family functions, they only reason we even see them is because of the kids. Which by the way...is a whole another story...

ohh and..He has set place boundaries...they argue that with him...and choose to do what they want to do...