“Thank you for sharing. Can you explain what happens typically when you're experiencing a BPD episode?”

It’s hard to compare it to your situation, because mine is very different.

When I married, I did not think I had any emotional difficulties, really hadn’t thought about that. It was not feeling, but being physically and emotionally neglected by my husband who isn’t a bad guy at all, just preoccupied with his stress from career and does not have ability to connect in the way I need. The struggle has gone on for way too long and I eventually showed traits of BPD. I feel it is out of exasperation with him, but there may be underlying causes that are emanating from me.

It’s honestly hard for me to relate to your husband’s involvement with your daughters, as my own father was totally uninvolved with us girls, and my husband was pretty much uninvolved with our three sons. I did most all the raising of our sons and husband and I did not butt heads about anything. He supported and agreed with my parenting.

We are older than you, and I understand fathers are now much more involved. So IDK if your husband’s involvement is typical or not.

FYI- All three of our sons slept in a bassinette next to my bed for the first six months, then went into their own room in their crib. Two brothers shared a room, then the third son had his own room while the two older ones shared a room through high school because they liked it. I’m just pointing this out to show you our parenting style. There were no issues with them having separation anxiety.

I do have emotional attacks, meltdowns, raging at my husband. I think it’s anxiety overload. It’s always over this sexual dynamic. I never do anything to hurt him; not physical, not financial, not impulsive danger cruelty... nothing like that. Just basic bytching and crying. . I was not really diagnosed BPD. I was diagnosed EDD- emotional dysregulation disorder (but when you look that up it says it’s BPD) and a different psychiatrist agreed, when I posed it to him, that I have BPD traits, which is not the full blown disorder. There is a BPD sub forum on PC if you want to read about and from others.