I was finally able to discuss the scenario with my partner. The bottom line was, he simply misjudged my reasoning for being in his room. I mentioned I was just there to debrief with our daughter, an important piece for us both to do. He said I've completely changed the story now but admitted he said a lot of things he shouldn't have. He felt he was in "protective mode" and was reactive because of it.

As much as he has a better understanding about where I was coming from, he still doesn't understand that, by creating a false illusion against me, he had my daughter fear me for what I was "going to do". Some of his interpretation was accurate, by looking at it at face value, but doesn't get why it got to that point.

He said he knew I wasn't hurting our daughter, even though he made that claim. He also said he shouldn't have commented about social services, taking away our girls.

I told him I was physically shaking, my voice was shaking, and went into protective mode. I told him how traumatic it was and how I'm still feeling the effects from it, a week later. I told him HE scared our daughter by his own actions and way of thinking.

He tells me he's "worried" about me because I've lost weight, have visible breathing difficulties, and chest pains. He tells me he wants to "help" me the "best way he can" and to let him know so he can be supportive.

I mentioned how important my daily breaks (1.5-2hrs) are for me. It helps me decompress, get fresh air, exercise, and relax my body. It helps me a lot! He said, "Oh." He struggles with it because he believes I'm doing this to "get away" from him. I said I'm doing this for me BECAUSE of him. He suggested I walk our dog more often then. I said I have been and it's been a problem with him, too. He said it's because I "take too long". I'm gone for about 25-40min max.. and not daily. He says he just wants us to spend as much time together, being positive and having fun. He wants to feel loved. He also can't handle both girls at the same time and would rather I at least take one child with me.. which works against what I need for me. So, I'm not budging. He can work something out while I'm on a short break. He takes breaks all the time.

As much as he understands, since he has a strong command of the English language (gawd), I really feel there's a disconnect. He can't empathize and understand my feelings as it plays out (being guarded, feeling scared, being uncomfortable with his affections, etc). He JUST feels rejected. I told him that's for him to sort out and he said he'd try.