Hi River31, I do a lot of talking to myself. I try to remind myself that my boundaries are to take care of me. His boundaries are to take care of him. It is not my business what he does. I have enough to do to make sure that I am OK. I also remember all the things he has done to me that are abusive, all the lies he has told, the qualities about him that I won't miss. I try not to paint him as better than he was, and I try to keep in mind that what I miss about the relationship is not really the same as missing the person.

I hope you will have a good day tomorrow.