“. When emotion regulation strategies such as reappraisal are engaged, the frontal lobe—particularly the prefrontal cortex—downregulates emotion-related regions such as the amygdala by inhibiting neural activity to these regions “
Controlling Your Emotions | Psychology Today

Twenty years into my journey of not getting any real help from a variety of therapists, I have recently seen a new psychiatrist who says I have “brain damage from prolonged trauma”. I have no major medical illnesses (like your husband has MS). My trauma is a series of events, the majorly triggering one being this relationship dynamic with my husband. (Married 28 years)

Your situation is more complicated than I can really understand. I take it you are thinking that he has a medical condition that is causing him to act emotionally dysregulated, and possibly suspect it is due to the MS (maybe it is).

Is this behavior of his a new thing? Has his personality drastically changed?

But then there is also the possibility that he is setting you up to not fare well in a divorce, child custody, and maybe he has bad ulterior motives?

After the confrontation you just had with him, going with him to a psychiatrist to discuss the concern for his change in emotional behavior regarding the incident ought to bring both possibilities regarding his mental health or bad intentions to light. It also brings someone else into the event as a voice of reason to hear that you are not a mother who is endangering your child.

I’d want that made quite clear to whoever can help, if he is trying to paint you as a danger.

I am not at all clingy to anyone. My husband is actually more clingy to me (or let’s say prefers to spend most all his time with me). Though, when I want to do anything by myself he’d never stop me. And I am fine with him taking an entire week vacation with his group of male friends, which he does every year. This year I was glad to have the break.