We had a situation tonight. We took our girls to the playground. Dad had the 1yr old while I finished off my coffee. I kept eyes on our 3yr old, then we were going to switch.

When I finished my coffee (within 5min) I turned around to put my empty coffee cup into the stroller. When I turned back, dad had the 3yr old. I scanned the playground and couldn't see the 1yr old. So I said, "Where's [name]?!" He said he didn't know. He thought "I" had her. I found her right away. She was nearby but not the point. No one was watching her in that brief moment and he blamed me.

So I told him "no" I didn't have her yet. He assumed I had her because she apparently headed towards me. I said we need to communicate when there's a switch off. He got irritated and said we should "just go home". No, we just arrived. We ended up staying.

I didn't like how we agreed on who was going to be with the 1yr old, but once she went "missing" (for that 10sec), I became responsible for it. Then when I clarified what we agreed on, he wanted to go home.