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“. When emotion regulation strategies such as reappraisal are engaged, the frontal lobe—particularly the prefrontal cortex—downregulates emotion-related regions such as the amygdala by inhibiting neural activity to these regions “
Controlling Your Emotions | Psychology Today

.. suggesting what?
^ You mentioned you were reading about emotional dysregulation and the frontal lobe damage. This was also just recently told to me by my new psychiatrist. I was not given any image scanning test. Just from an interview, the psy determined about me, did not give me any diagnosis and when I asked him about one, he didn’t want to. He used the term “brain damage from prolonged trauma” and when his variety of meds did nothing for me he later said “treatment resistant” (which I take as he must mean depression).

If you go to a psychiatrist with your husband, I expect this will be addressed with him, too. IDK how you both would present to them what is going on within the relationship, how they’ll proceed or what they’ll think.

As for the incident with the lean/push, threat of police, struggles over bedtime parenting control, and your daughter crying; IDK if that warrants any mandatory call to child welfare, tbh. I’m not an expert. Maybe you can find out if that kind of event would make your life more difficult or if this is exactly the kind of reason to get professional help.

The Union Meeting might be good to do as it is his idea and you can start with the smallest things. When it comes to inability to compromise on the deal breaker things, what will happen?

I joke that I never took my eyes off my kids for eighteen years. I never trusted anyone to watch them. Even if my h and I were in the park with the kids, it was my eyes scanning and watching for their safety at all times. He wasn’t that sharp to stay focused on them. I’m not saying that all men are that way. I’m just wondering if it would make your life easier to stop trying so hard to equally coparent with your h, and you take the reigns more(even if he does not realize you are and thinks he is coparenting equally).

The one y/o was missing for a minute. You got into an argument with your h over whose responsibility is was to watch her. My mama bear instincts would tell me that I just always need to watch both girls at all times.

How can you stand to live with a liar? Has he always been one? Do you lie, too? I’ve certainly told small lies when I’ve had to , but generally don’t lie and can’t tolerate it from others. It undermines everything.