His 'episodes' are not violent but he will verbally blame me for how he is feeling. If he is tired or hungry he orders me to do things like and he does them in a nasty way. Also, anything that is going wrong,( the internet going out) or something that I have no control over, it is my fault. It's on me, as he will tell me.

I almost am able to tell when he is going to start an episode because he will tell me how horrible his life is, that no one likes him, that he is loser, and then it starts. He is not a loser at all, he has a good job and people basically like him but he doesn't believe that. He did have a tough start to life and also battled with alcohol and drugs but that was 30 years ago with few slip ups in between.

I did not know him until 5 years ago and we have been married for not quite 2 years. He has started to have a few beers but lately he is drinking more and he says it helps to "quiet the voices." Those voices are that he is a loser and no one likes him and he is not a good person.

I know these issues are not serious but I am trying to get things on a better road. He will say he has a mental illness but will not do anything about it. So here is a bit more about what is going on.

Thank you!