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Sure he loves his kids but he can’t ever handle them, according to you. They scream and cry and look frightened when he is alone with them etc You can be a loving parent but then be totally incompetent. They scream and cry and look frightened when he is alone with them etc You can be a loving parent but then be totally incompetent.
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No not "can't ever" or "always" .. it's just when he's stuck in his head. I've seen him handle behaviours really well. There are times when he's emotional about ME that impairs his ability to work through a simple problem. It's the internal dialogue he has with himself that eats away at him, causing him to feel emotional, unloved, and unwanted.
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I don’t believe it’s the same with your partner. You aren’t this man’s mother, he is an adult. Poorly behaved adult.
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I'm noticing an increase in symptoms when he's in this state.. and probably because of other factors, too. I'm guarded with him now which he's noticed; I'm home from work now, spending a lot of time at home; I'm taking more "me" time; there's covid19.. so I'm starting to see a pattern I wasn't aware of before. I'm not his mother but I'm the mother of his children. I'm currently unable to leave right now so I have to work with what I'm presented with. I do love him and my family. I want to help as much as I can before throwing in the towel. I really don't believe he's "just" abusive.
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If you believe MS causes these issues, I’d demand doctor providing the info on it. I’d not just assume.
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I don't "believe" anything. I'm questioning everything. I'm trying to make sense of it. Yes, I have thought about bringing this up with his specialist. I usually go with him but I was unable to at last visit because of the girls. It's a probability. Not a conclusion. I think the drug addiction may have had more effects on him.. I'm not a doctor, though. These are all thoughts in my head that seem fitting. If it weren't for me, he wouldn't have come this far with his therapies. I've seen therapists, too.
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My husband has Tourette’s and OCD, he is neither abusive nor poorly behaved.
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I wouldn't say OCD and Tourette's is connected to brain "injury". I believe my son's volatile behaviours were more to do with his sustained brain injury rather than his special needs diagnosis. Same with my stepdad and his stroke.. brain injury.
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Ton of people with MS are loving partners, not liars or abusers. It doesn’t apply to everyone.
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Yes, I agree. It also works on a spectrum, too, much like Autism. It depends where in the brain lesions are formed. It's all speculative, yes, but I do need to consider it as a possibility. I do find the DBT has been helpful.. that's a good sign. It's suppose to help with people with frontal cortex damage. So at the very least, as of today, it's a reasonable tool to help us all as a family.
I'm not diagnosing him. I'm looking at the behaviours and trying to make sense of it.