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Originally Posted by Have Hope
MsLady, why not see a doctor with him to confirm your suspicions of BPD? You are not qualified to either diagnose nor start treating an illness that you don't even know exists.
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I'm not "treating" him. His therapist, who has a background in psychology, is. She was the one that recommended the DBT.
Why not see a doctor about it? Because the recommended therapy is DBT, anyway.. which he's already doing.
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Why are you trying to explain away his behaviors by means of diagnosing him as having a mental illness that you can then say is causing these behaviors? You're spending a lot of time and energy on things you're not qualified to determine.
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All I can do at this point is work with what I have. I'm not diagnosing him. He has a diagnosis already and I'm questioning if it's a piece to the problem. It was our couple's therapist that mentioned to us about "brain injury".
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If you really suspect this, then see a doctor with him and get a real diagnosis. Get him an MRI and talk to doctors. You're doing a lot of speculation without medical consultation and tests.
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He gets MRIs, yearly.
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Perhaps it's too hard to face the fact that he is abusive. Maybe that's too hard to stomach for you, and you'd prefer to think his behavior comes from mental illness or brain damage. I really do not know. What's so wrong with determining that he's abusive towards you, and that perhaps you need to leave him because of that?
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He does go through bouts of depression and says he's anxious at times. He's brought up about feeling suicidal, at times.. so I suspect there's mental illness in there.
I just think all of these issues combined ought to spell out a bigger root.