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Originally Posted by Have Hope
That is progress!
However, I am wondering why you said improvement on our behaviors, when it's her behavior. that is problematic for you? Are you afraid to confront her on the issues you have with her anger, her lashing out at you, hitting things, going ballistic, etc etc?
I think it's a huge positive that she wants to go to couples therapy though. That's big.
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It's more of the social/flirtatious stuff that bothers me. But any time we talk about that stuff she gets defensive and that's when her anger shows. But I am afraid of confronting her, period. Everything is always my fault. It's always denial with her. She admits her anger issues and will occasionally apologize. Problem is, I have never brought it up to her as an issue, only the sexual stuff. Yet, somehow she can't seem to get it in her head. It's like, if your spouse always left the toilet seat up/down and you keep bringing it up and they say, sorry for leaving dishes in the sink.