I'm glad neither of you have any addictive/compulsive problems. That should help make your healing and moving on go smoother. Divorce with children in itself is one of the most horrible things a person can go through. Trust me. I don't mean to say that to depress you even more. I am just letting you know that I have been through it and that you are not alone. Depression can make it hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel as well. I know that from experience too.

It sounds like you might be frustrated that your therapist is focused on childhood and other issues besides your wife right now. Some therapists like to get a overall picture of your situation before diving in to what is hurting you the most. Be patient and give it another session. Hopefully they will let you talk some more about losing your wife.

Do you have any close friends to talk to in person?