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Originally Posted by divine1966
It seems that DBT got him to focus on being a good person. Hence sticky notes around the house “I am a good person”. It doesn’t sound like it was addressing any kind of bad behaviors. And MsLady was in fact triggered (understandably) by this development. I don’t see how reading DBT books is improving anything without professional help (if his behaviors caused by medical issues etc).
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The DBT got him to focus on some of his behaviours. He just started the therapy and acknowledged it'll take time for a shift to take place.
I've seen improvements with how he behaves in public around other women. He's conscientiously more aware of himself and is more present. I've seen improvements when we're in conversation, he's more present and listening to me and there's a better "ebb and flow" in our discussions. I've seen an improvement with how he responds to feedback, pending that it's not a list of 3 triggers. He's not as defensive. I see him taking deep breaths and teaching our daughter to, when she's upset about something. I've seen improvements with not spending so much time on his cell, possibly involved in his "secret social life" that no longer seems present. So, the DBT has made positive changes, so far. Yes, he hasn't gotten into the "meat" just yet.
.. and remember, I can't leave right now. So, this is where I'm at.