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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Despite "debriefing" him, what he's doing in his actions, nonetheless, is damaging YOUR image to HIS family and HIS friends and now with your OWN daughters. He IS projecting his abuse onto you. He is STILL exhibiting abusive behaviors, regardless of all.
Why you even bother to work with him is beyond my comprehension. I would have been living with my family by now.
Next, he WILL call the police. He has set it up so that you're the abuser, and he's the victim.
THAT IS CLASSIC ABUSE.
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Yep, I agree. I'm trying to help him because I currently don't have another choice. Next time he won't be calling the police because I won't give him a reason to. He taught me how ugly he plays.
Living with my family is not an option. We're all estranged from each other now. They're all toxic which is how my siblings and I have all landed in abusive relationships. Our extended family members bought into my mother's "stories" much like my partner's family buys into his. I didn't make this connection until AFTER we were already in a relationship. I didn't understand the full picture until recently. So here I am now.
I wish he "would" give me a black eye.. so people can visibly see things as they are. It's interesting I "could" get myself arrested for trying to get him to leave a room, without any intent to harm.. without inflicting ANY harm.. but he can get away with all this, legally, because he didn't PHYSICALLY abuse me. It's truly where he draws the line. I never worry about whether or not he'll physically hurt me. It'll damage HIS image, too much.