I understand not being able to leave too. What I am having trouble with is why you're not separating from him within your current housing situation. And like I've said, I think you're dancing for him, trying to adjust your own behavior and responses so as not to trigger, upset and set him off. That is very common among abused women and how they respond. What is troubling is that the abuse continues, has escalated further, and he is building a case against you. I would have separated from him in every way by now, which indicates that you will not accept his bad behaviors. But instead, you are rationalizing the behavior by trying to state that it's more a case of mental illness and brain damage that is causing him to behave poorly. When perhaps it's just downright abuse and you are in a most toxic and abusive relationship. I don't see him vastly improving; what i see is this only get worse and worse.