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Originally Posted by MsLady
This would NOT work. He wouldn't be able to handle it and it would create further toxicity around our girls. Right now, most things are behind the scenes. In the situation you're proposing, he would use the girls to his advantage, making demands that are unfavorable for them, because separation within the home is another form of rejection.
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However, YOU can protect your girls from any resulting toxic behaviors on his part. Why let that stop you from separating from him? This makes NO sense to me at all. You are willing to PUT UP WITH, DANCE AROUND and try to RESOLVE his deeply rooted abuse issues, all while being ABUSED YOURSELF. You CAN protect your girls. My sister did it with her ex abusive husband. She accomplished an in-house separation with him after she could no longer take his abuse, and with THREE young boys at home. Her ex is severely abusive! If SHE can do it, you can too! Her boys all turned out OK, and that's because SHE protected them from him.
I wouldn't let fear of his reaction stop you from a separation. I think it's absolutely critical and necessary at this point!!!