I have to approach this in a way I can handle it, too. It is a dance. When an opening comes up, I'd like to slide into it. In the meantime, I feel being supportive NOW will pay off better in the long run, whether we're together or not. I feel I NEED to do this for my girls. He's NOT at par with parenting, you're both right. So I want to continue working together on that since he HAS been receptive to my parenting strategies and ideas. He wants to be seen as good, right? Well he's with the right person because I'm riding his tail.

I want to feel more secured that he's in a better mental position before feeling he can coparent our children without me. I AM thinking about them, too.