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Originally Posted by MsLady
I have to approach this in a way I can handle it, too. It is a dance. When an opening comes up, I'd like to slide into it. In the meantime, I feel being supportive NOW will pay off better in the long run, whether we're together or not. I feel I NEED to do this for my girls. He's NOT at par with parenting, you're both right. So I want to continue working together on that since he HAS been receptive to my parenting strategies and ideas. He wants to be seen as good, right? Well he's with the right person because I'm riding his tail.
I want to feel more secured that he's in a better mental position before feeling he can coparent our children without me. I AM thinking about them, too.
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Yes, and in the meantime, your 3 year old witnessed him accusing you of abuse.
Do you know how confusing and traumatizing that could be for a toddler?
It's only going to get worse. But your refuse to separate, you refuse to put your foot down, and instead you want to help him, while you are being abused and while it's escalating to a seriously disturbing level. I don't think you're fully absorbing how absolutely
disturbing it is what he's done to you. Instead, you want to work with him on improving his behaviors, when what he has done should have required social services to take his own parental rights away.