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Originally Posted by Travelinglady
So, you have a female body but a male brain. Honestly, I think you're not going to have much of a sex life unless you use the female parts you have in the process--and that would entail for masturbation, too. And yes, a dildo. Otherwise, how would you have sex?
Since you're no longer under anybody/s restrictions, have you considered male hormones? That would be a start.  |
I mean, I guess I just won't be able to have sex or masturbate. Any idea how to completely get rid of sexual/romantic desires once and for all? Thankfully, I don't think about it as much as I did and I'm more angry than anything that I don't get to experience something so basic that others just take for granted.
And I'm always under society's restrictions for my body. I can just get away with it longer without a partner. But I don't know if I would be allowed to work or even live where I am if I take hormones. How would I ever know if it's safe? How would I avoid everyone I've ever known previously....I can avoid most people, but it might be difficult to avoid my parents for more than a few months or so.
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Originally Posted by The_little_didgee
I can relate to your experiences. Sexuality is something I struggle with due to my anatomy. I'm transgender, a male in a female's body.
When I tried relationships it was nearly impossible to perform. I had to stop pursuing romantic relationships, because it took everything out of me to act and feel sexual. The only joy I get now is from self-pleasure. Creativity has helped me work around the anatomy issues.
I've been told hormone therapy will help with this. It may not completely eliminate it though.
There are toys and prosthetic devices that can help. Some are specifically for FTM. I haven't tried any of them, yet.
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I had more of an issue with the inequity and unfairness of sex rather than having a sex drive and being sexual. Without having a penis, it meant a partner would have a complete monopoly on all orgasms and emotional connection if that's even an actual thing. I just struggle to understand how people enjoy it. It just seems so incredibly unfair that I don't get to I guess. That I don't get to have a partner when truly awful people can always find one if they wanted. It just makes me feel so ugly and disgusting. I missed my sexual prime and had zero experiences during that I guess because I'm that gross? And when I do get experience, it's so awful that it even turns me off from masturbation. And I've used an FTM toy, it worked the first time, but never again after that. And without being able to get off, what's the point of masturbation? Nothing arouses me enough long enough anymore I guess. Is the point to train my body to actually respond sometimes in more than one position? But could that be the point when no one is ever going to want to have sex with me again? Especially if I DO take hormones. If I'm so ugly now, imagine how ugly I'll be on testosterone...