.. just to add, I didn't want to go to the wedding. I just didn't realize he didn't want me there, either. It's the same couple he's vented about me with, so why would I subject myself.. especially after the BBQ incident.

He said it's because he didn't want me "judging" him on how he is, socially.. he didn't want to "embarrass" me. And, ya, he does embarrass me. When we run into an acquaintance, or a random neighbour, he'll instantly crack jokes on their expense, laughing at them. It's not funny or very nice at all. These aren't his BFFs so it's completely inappropriate, usually targeting a possible insecurity (baldness, aging, looks, etc). His dad jokes in this same way.

I mentioned here about Histrionic Personality disorder. Just the center stage, theatrical, loudness embarrasses me. So I'm completely ok about not blending our social circle.

It started off being about my social anxiety. He was very "understanding" that large social gatherings were too much for me. He was very "supportive" and let them know about it. It wasn't until 4-5 months ago I discovered he was glad I didn't attend, all along.