The wedding was an hour out of the city. As the Best Man, he needed to arrive earlier to help set up. He told me 2weeks after his invite we were invited, too .. but that he didn't know how we'd get there. I said we didn't "have to" go, under those circumstances. He said ok.. and then added it would have been stressful for him anyway, as he'd have to "bounce back and forth" between us and the party. Not a nice thing to say, IMO. Wouldn't we be "part" of the party? When I questioned it, he used my social anxieties as a "concern"... all hogwash. I later found out the truth about it.

I think he wanted to party it up, drink like a fish, and not worry about presenting himself a certain way, in front of his kids. Had we been there, he would have had to be the designated driver and leave the party earlier.