Years ago I asked my husband to come into a therapy session with me so we could discuss my mental illness. We ended up doing 3 sessions and it did help. Is that something you would be able to do with your wife?
With regard to the Lamictal...the waiting is the hardest part. You don't have too much longer to reach 200. 2 1/2 weeks. I'm pretty sure it feels like a long time, but you know...it'll fly by.
As for checking out - yes, FluffyD. It's your depression talking.
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