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Originally Posted by DechanDawa
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Originally Posted by Have Hope
It does cost quite a bit to move across country. If that were charged on a credit card, it may be very difficult to lower and get rid of all that debt.
I wanted to encourage you to move because you wanted it to move so badly, so I wanted to give you some positive feedback around it. But I agree that charging it on a credit card is not the wisest plan, and neither is moving during a pandemic, as you pointed out.
Also, now that your son may move himself, there's almost no point in trying to move to be closer to him.
Perhaps it's best to now troubleshoot where you are going to live in your current area, and resolve the isolation/loneliness factor.
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Just reading over comments. It's been a crazy two weeks. Your comments here simply repeated the conclusion I came to on my own.
I asked for honest feedback two weeks ago...as the title of this thread suggests. Everyone except TishuBuv said go, go, go...yes, charge thousands of dollars on your credit card and move 2,000 in the middle of a pandemic. What a great idea!
I wasn't thinking clearing...and was emotional...which is why I started this thread...for feedback. I was confused and needed help.
Your hindsight remarks are a bit patronizing.
Your last bit of advice about resolving loneliness and isolation especially stings. We are in a major pandemic and I have been alone in a studio apartment by myself for 17 weeks. To tell me I should set about resolving the "isolation/loneliness" factor when I was already isolated before the pandemic...and when many places are now still shut down i.e. church, library, gym, community centers...is a bit harsh
Please don't say go online and make friends. I belong to several communities besides this one and am pretty well connected on the Internet. The other sites are more career and creative arts oriented.
In truth I am going to not worry about loneliness or isolation. I am going to take out my cameras and dust them off and go out and photograph. I have a degree in photojournalism and spent a lot of time alone creating stuff that won awards and sold well.
I have one digital camera - not great - but it will be okay until I can afford something better.
Even if my son moves it wouldn't be far...and 200 miles is not the same as 2,000 miles. I will stabilize myself and then start saving for a future move. Presently I have zero credit card debt and would like to keep it that way.
I know you meant well, HH, but if I could adequately solve the "isolation, loneliness" factor I might actually become rich. It was a major societal problem even before the pandemic. Now even more so.
But truthfully I think I will rely on myself more and others less.
Right now it remains to be seen whether I will find affordable housing or end up homeless. So right now I am feeling to hell with loneliness, to hell with isolation. I have to find affordable housing before winter which is just around the corner. |
You are honestly overreacting to my post, which was meant with the best of intentions, and you are twisting my words into something that they were not.
I was not patronizing you. I was in agreement with your latest conclusion about the cost and charging it on credit cards. When I thought about it more, it made more sense NOT to charge on your credit cards. I was only in agreement with your conclusion.
And you had stated you should not move to be near your son, if he is moving.
I have NO idea where this is coming from, Dechan, but I only have had the best of intentions for supporting you along your journey.
Take care, and don't worry, I will never post again on one of your threads ever again.