Anatomically, the clitoris can be considered a little penis. After all, it's only with male hormones in the womb that it grows bigger. Think if it that way. Find the clitoris and rub away, making sure to lubricate first. If it helps, use your imagination while at it. I hope that helps. I don't want you to feel unattractive. Think that you are rubbing a big male organ.

I'm not sure how females turned into males find their pleasure with someone else, since it's not possible as yet to give them a penis. Maybe someone else with that experience can tell us better news. :Maybe use a realistic dildo strapped on?